Bondage checklist

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Red-dy, red-red! Do I want to walk into a crowd of strangers and randomly introduce myself? Red, red, red-dy, red-red. Conversations about our limits both hard and soft permeate our entire life. In one word, he knows how I feel about it. We, as kinksters, focus on hard limits a lot. What squicks us out. What gives us the bad shivers. What sounds so gross, disgusting, and horrible that we kind of, sort of wonder what might be wrong with people who do like it. You need to talk about soft limits, too. I reserve the right to make it a hard limit if it really bothers me.

Of course, John Brownstone has that right too. Watch porn or perv on Tumblr. This is a great way to see what something looks like and decide if you might be interested. That makes researching it harder later on. Use a checklist. This is a popular method for kinksters, especially if one of you is new to the lifestyle and other has some experience.

I highly recommend them. It makes sense if you think about it. Expect your checklist to take more than a few minutes to complete. There are no right or wrong answers on a checklist, although I can imagine an eager submissive worrying he or she will answer incorrectly. Do not freak out about it. Anything that got a question mark needs to be researched or explained by your partner if they know. The rest, you talk about. Checklists are a no-judgement kind of thing. Your checklist should be used to discover what you both like and to try new things together. This kinky thing we do is about exploring our desires and who we are as individuals and in relationships.

Want to continue the conversation about limits and checklists? I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet! Checklists are a great way to find out what you may like.

But the best advice you gave is that it should be taken slowly, step-by-step and every little step should be accordingly communicated with your partner. Notify me of follow-up comments by . Notify me of new posts by .

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. Do I want to rake leaves? Do I want to drive to a busy international airport without him? Soft vs Hard Limits We, as kinksters, focus on hard limits a lot. Good checklists have a few things in common: They list dozens of activities — not all of them sexual.

Check him out here. How to Use a Checklist There are no right or wrong answers on a checklist, although I can imagine an eager submissive worrying he or she will answer incorrectly. Start slow. Try the easy stuff first and see how you like it. Try something more than once before making it a hard limit unless you hate it so much even the idea of it makes you want to gag.

It might have been a bad moment or there might be another way to approach the scene that works better for you. Everything is on a spectrum from light to hard. Go back over or re-do your checklist every few months or once a year. Like this: Like Loading Not a Typical Dominant WickedWednesday.

The Plan MasturbationMonday. Kayla Lords I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. View all posts. Our 2 cents on the topic. I enjoyed reading your article, as always.

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